One of my rules

One of the reasons I like writing posts for Babyccino is because it gives me a chance to stop and think and analyse my parenting philosophies. So often when I tell my kids to do something and they ask me why, my answer is the same as every parent since the dawn of time: because I said so!!!! But actually, when I take a second to stop and think about it, most of my rules actually do exist for a (reasonably) good reason.

For example, here is one of my rules: if we are visiting someone, the rules of that person’s household apply to me and my family – not the other way round. We travel at lot and visit not just people in different countries, but also of different generations. My kids love going to my aunt’s house in Dublin, for example, as she lets them jump all over her sofas and help themselves to as many homemade cookies as they could possibly stuff in their mouth. This is not something they are allowed to do at home, but I feel that it is important for them to know the difference and how to adapt their behavior.  On the other hand, I am quite easygoing about taking off shoes when you come into our flat, while other people are not as lenient.  I want the kids to be aware of the differences and to be considerate of other people’s house rules.

I guess I want my kids to be conscious about how other people think and to accept that other people’s rules are not necessarily better or worse than ours. I also want to ingrain the flexibility into them to be able to adapt themselves to situations and be able to observe the environment they are in and be mindful of it. I am hoping (very likely vainly) that this way of thinking is going to rub off on them, making life so much more pleasant for them when they become older.


PS The above photo is of our 6 kids last summer when we stayed at Esther’s and got to live Esther’s family’s way of life. A very fun way of life I might add! ; )


Comments (6)

March 16, 2017

I like this rule / wsy of thinking …. will have this chat with my brood … thank you !

Annie from Brimful
March 17, 2017

An excellent philosophy – I’ll take it ;). I always enjoy your posts Emilie…I can see your face light up with a laugh as I read your words. xoxo

March 17, 2017

I love this post! an excellent way to raise our kids. I think they have to be prepared for being flexible and adapt without problem to different situations.

March 23, 2017

I love this!!!

March 28, 2017

I love this. However, I find this rule a bit challenging in situations where the other family’s rules -or lack thereof- make me feel uncomfortable, or unsafe. For example: families that don’t care for carseat safety, or sun protection, or screen time (all things important to me). Or what about families that smoke in front of their children? And what if those families are part of my extended family? Has anyone been in a situation like that? I’d love to know other people’s thoughts.

March 28, 2017

It is an interesting question, especially the smoking one, as in France a lot of people still smoke. My take is that I cannot stop this and I trust that I am bring up my kids well enough that they can distinguish between what is right and wrong. I really hope that seeing another parent smoke is not going to make my children think that it is a good thing to do. We cannot protect our kids from seeing and even experiencing things that we consider unsafe – but we can bring them up as conscious beings who are able to make judgement calls. The same goes with screen time, my children have experienced home where screen time is not an issue and been first very excited about it and then… very bored. A good lesson to learn I feel!

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