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Tuesday Tips: breathe first!

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I’m not sure if I can state this generally, but I have the gut feeling I can speak for all mothers here: mamas, we do not take enough time for ourselves. (Speaking for myself, I definitely don’t.)

Isn’t it so easy for us mothers to forget about ourselves, to always put our children and family before ourselves? Aren’t we reprogrammed, the moment we give birth, to dedicate every second of the rest of our lives to the wellbeing of our babies?

It’s of course a very logical natural phenomenon, and it all perfectly makes sense out of an evolutionary point of view: we’re just another mammal mother fighting for the survival of our offspring.

However, never taking time for ourselves doesn’t, in the end, make us a better mum. It makes us stressed, unhappy, and tired. We need time to unwind, to feel good about ourselves, to be happy and loving and patient.

I recently thought about the safety procedures in an airplane. I always specifically notice (probably because it is so counter-intuitive) the phrase ‘please put on your own oxygen mask before helping your child’. I would always think of my babies first! But it makes sense, doesn’t it — we need to be able to breathe first, before we can help our children to breathe. It’s so perfectly simple: we need to look after ourselves in order to be able to look after our children. We need to breathe first. We need to clear out our busy minds. Because there’s no way we can look after them well if we don’t look after ourselves!

xxx Esther

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Comments (11)

July 21, 2015

This is so sweet. Before I had kids, I thought I would struggle to always put them first. Once I had my first daughter, I realized how selfish I was. Now, I don’t think twice before doing things for my kids. And some days, I realize I have yet to think about myself. Its crazy how it works but you are right…we need to take some time for ourselves. Recently, I started trying to FINALLY make exercise a priority and some days, I catch myself feeling guilty. It’s so silly because, like on the plane, if we don’t care for our bodies, how can we ever care for our children!! Sorry for the long comment…I just really liked this post. 🙂
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July 21, 2015

Wow Esther I should write this on my wall(s)! This will be a famous quote one day! One of the best and most logical things I’ve ever read! Wow wow wow! xxx


Stacey
July 23, 2015

My thoughts exactly, can only add an extra WOW! This will stay with me in health, restoring patience and getting out for more fun!
Cheers Esther!


Jenny
July 21, 2015

That is such a great example! So very true xx


Nina
July 21, 2015

Every time I fly I think exactly this! Great article!!!


July 22, 2015

So true Esther. My older two have been at Grandmas in England for a whole week, Percy is with me (still going to creche in the holidays) and I have been getting on with work. I have missed them like crazy and even had to sleep in their beds at night sometimes! But I feel like my brain has been able to breath and I am determined to take some of my realisations about giving myself some time forward. I really loved your analogy with plane safety. xx


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Catriona
July 22, 2015

Beautifully said! Thank you for this important reminder. X


July 22, 2015

Such a great message, and well worth remembering! xx


Jen
July 22, 2015

It’s so funny you reference that airplane scenario because ever since becoming a mother I always here that saying in my mind when it comes to situations with my child. I just knew I had to take care of me or else I would be able to take care of her- but it’s not that easy to actually do it!! Thanks for the article!


Jen
July 22, 2015

I’m sorry for the typos! Hear, not ‘here’. And I meant I wouldn’t be able to take care of her- not ‘I would ‘. 🙂


July 23, 2015

How very true!


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