We will teach you to make love again

I read this article in the Guardian by Janine di Giovanni called “We will teach you to make love again” and I could not resist mentioning it on Babyccino.

For me it reflects a lot my experiences of being a mother in France. The article is definitely written with a big pinch of irony and generalizations, but there is a lot of truth to it. The perineal re-education, the emphasis on losing weight after birth and the different attitude towards breastfeeding are all things I have experienced. Janine puts it perfectly: being a mother in the Anglo-Saxon world can be all about the baby. Being a mother in France is very much also about the mother.



Comments (4)

April 2, 2009

Emiie, thanks for pointing out this article. I read it with great interest. Gross generalizations aside in this article, the whole perineal re-education is of great interest to me for a variety of reasons. Yes, sex but more so physical well-being (but then isn’t this all intertwined?!). Having had two children in the last 4 years, my lower back has suddenly started to flare up. I chalked it up to carrying my nearly 2yo around a bit too much as well as all the bloody time spent buckling the kids into their car seats. I am a huge believer in core strength and I’m working on getting mine in tiptop condition. But I do think this is the dirty secret of womanhood. Your core is integral to so much wellness or lack there of if it’s not strong. I like the french system of educating woman post birth. Obviously Janine is somewhat tongue and cheek, as she often is in her writing. But as I’ve discussed this with many women here in the UK, I do think the UK and the US could learn a thing or two from the French. Who will pay that bill is an entirely different issue!!!!!

April 3, 2009

thanks for pointing out this article…am French giving birth in England…have been searching for those classes here on the recommendations of my french girlfriends!!!! and then i gave up and went for tea&scones!!

April 3, 2009

Am I the only one who suddenly started to do Kagel execises while reading this article?

I live in the US and after two children, not one person as ever spoken to me about toning up “down there”. Too bad for me I guess.

Cute article.

April 3, 2009

I’m off to read the article right away! I just found out I am in my 1st trimester and I want to be sure to keep a very healthy balance between focus on baby and focus on life.
Merci beaucoup!

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