As I am pregnant in France, I am learning very quickly about a new system.
There seems to be a lot more birth options in France than in the UK covered by social security. We have gone down the route of a private midwife. This was mostly because we wanted to get to know the person who was going to deliver the baby but still have the baby in the safe environment of a hospital, in case anything goes wrong.
The midwife is affiliated to a clinic and works together with a team of doctors. So if everything goes smoothly we will see no one else during the birth, but if anything goes wrong we are still in a hospital with all the staff necessary.

The midwife, with whom we decided to go with, specialises in something called Haptonomy, which is completely new to me.

It is a “science of affectivity.” You communicate with the unborn child through touch. It is supposed to encourage the bond between the unborn baby and the parents, specifically the father.

I, being a naturally sceptical person, am finding the whole thing a bit abstract. My husband however (being a closet hippie) really likes the idea, and I can understand why: being pregnant is so much more about the mother and the baby, so it must be nice to be given an opportunity as a father to bond.

It is true that when the midwife practised the Haptonomy on me, she managed to make the baby move in whatever direction she wanted it to. A friend of mine who is a great believer in Haptonomy managed to move her baby off her bladder whilst 7 months pregnant, which is no mean feat. It is also supposed to make the birth easier as you are supposed to be able to help the baby move into a better position to come out.

So I am going to go for it and see what happens. I guess it can’t hurt. If we don’t get anything out of it, at least we have spent a couple of nights every week concentrating on the baby and trying to give it some attention. If we do get something out of it, and the birth is easier and things go smoothly, I will be a firm convert to Haptonomy!



Comments (18)

December 12, 2007

The first months of my first pregnancy I was living in Brussels and heard the term Haptonomy, but didn’t investigate further because I was moving to London anyway. (I actually thought it was some sort of massage therapy). Later I heard of a friend who gave birth in Brussels that for her and her partner the Haptonomy had been helpful.
I just checked the link above and for me (sceptical person as well) it is difficult to understand what they are trying to say, but what I did find out is that the inventer of the therapy is Dutch!

February 22, 2008

As a Canadian in Paris who is also pregnant for the first time, I am curious about what you now think of this haptonomie business. I am also sceptical, but if it can help move the baby during labour…

Cheers, Natasha

February 24, 2008

I am actually getting more and more into it. A few nights ago I could not sleep as the baby was lying directly on my bladder. My husband managed to reposition the baby through Haptonomy. I had the best night sleep in a long time.
I also don’t know if this is normal but this baby reacts very differently to touch than my first one. It moves over towards my hand every time I put it on my tummy. I think at least part of it comes from Haptonomy.

March 20, 2008

[…] get to the stage of being ready to give birth, instead of hurrying it along. (Linked to this is the Haptonomy approach, which I wrote about a couple of months ago). What I also like about it is that, while you […]

June 3, 2008

Hello ladies, this might be a long shot but I am pregnant with my first baby and desperatly looking for an haptonomy practise in Los Angeles. Would anyone have any lead? Thanks!

October 21, 2008

I am expecting my first child and some friends from France highly recommended haptonomy. Would you know a practise in London?

October 27, 2008

I am French and living in London. Some friends mentionned haptonomy and I looked for an ‘haptonome’ here but there are none. This has been confirmed to me by the National Association of Haptonomes (CIRDH) based in France. If you contact them they will send you the list of all their practitionners in the world. I am expecting my first child and am going to Paris with husby every month for an haptonomy session. There are practionners who work on Saturdays so at least we don’t have to take a day off. It is a bit complicated to organise from London but definitely worth it.

December 4, 2008

I live in paris am 19 weeks along and wouldn’t mind checking this therapy out. can anyone provide me with a recommended person? thanks.

December 4, 2008

Of course Anais. Can you send me an email to and I will sent you some contact details. Emilie

December 20, 2008

Me and my wife are looking for information on any haptonomy classes in Los Angeles. Please help!!

January 21, 2009

We had our first baby in September and did haptonomy during the pregnancy. It was my partner who introduced the idea and I was open to it if not a little sceptical. I can totally confirm that it was a fabulous process and something I would strongly recommend. While it is impossible to say that our babies calmness is thanks to haptonomy we enjoyed a smooth and communicative pregnancy and an amazing arrival and first few months of our sons life. It really did feel like we all already knew each other when he arrived and our son has been very easy going. I am trying to find classes for a friend in London but to no avail. For any qualified haptonomy midwives out there…. go to London!!

Carrie Mc
March 12, 2009

I am looking to get certified in Haptonomy – plaese ask your practitioner where she was certified… I’d be traveling from California!
thank you

May 8, 2009

Hi, I’m very interested in doing Haptonomy classes in London, has there been any update as to whether there are any practitioners here now?

May 11, 2009

Unfortunately no! I have been trying to find out about courses in London and there does not seem to be anyone who is certified.

August 11, 2010

I am new here (and newly pregnant!!!). I can see that the posts are quite old, so I am not sure if any of you still read the messages. I am french and live in the UK (Milton Keynes). This will be my first baby, and I really would like to try Haptonomy. Not much seem to have changed since 2007-2008 as I haven’t been able to find a course in the UK. Therefore, I am considering travelling to France regularly for this. Can anyone share their experience (I can see, for instance, that Fabienne has done that)? Also, in terms of costs, do you have any idea how much it costs?
Many thanks for your replies!

February 1, 2014

Interested to learn more about haptonomy ? Feel free to contact me @ – in French or English 🙂

June 3, 2015

I am French and live in NY. I’m pregnant and I would really love to take haptonomy classes with my husband. I can’t find any here and am very frustrated.
Have you ever come back to the US to give birth to another child and faced this?
Thank you

May 12, 2016

Hi Marie, have you found anyone in NY? i’m also there and cannot find anyone…

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