I am not trying to complain… I am really happy that my husband is involved with our kids and that they have a great relationship, but sometimes I wish they thought I was as much fun as he was!
Why are Dads always the fun ones while Moms are the fun police? Is it because women are actually innately more organised and naturally get burdened with the task of being the disciplinarian?
I have to say that most of the time my head is so full with trying to plan what kind of dinner to cook or remembering to organise a playdate with my new friend’s little girl etc. that it does not come to my mind to stick a newspaper on my head and pretend to be a giant duck. I actually think that even if I was not acting as my 2-year-old’s PA, making sure that her social calendar rivaled Paris Hilton’s, it would still not occur to me to stick a paper on my head and pretend to be a feathered beast!
I also do not have the patience to sit on the floor and draw for hours on end; I can do about 10 mins and then my mind wonders off and I start thinking of the wash I need to hang up, how I’ve been planning to hang up some new paintings, and how my desk really needs a tidy up. I also get this urge to quickly, just quickly, check my email and see what is going on in the world outside our 4 walls.
I have observed this family dynamic in most other families with small kids. I don’t even think it is the fathers that are imposing this onto the family. I don’t even think it is more prevalent in families with a stay-at-home mom as it seems to occur as much in families in which both parents work as in families where the kids are with the mother all day.
As a friend of mine put it: dads seem to plan for the moment while moms for the bigger picture. They know that even though a dinner of solely popcorn followed by a movie is really fun, but that the consequences the next day are going to be dire. Tired, hungry kids who want to watch a movie every night are not fun to be around!
I guess we all have our roles to fill, but I think I am going to work at expanding my comedic repertoire from screaming “put that down” and “because I said so” to something more punchy….